You all know I am a big proponent of coaching. Not just because I coach people myself, but because I have been coached...and it always helps.
But what do you do if it's 11:00 pm and it's too late to contact your coach? Or the coach you want to contact is in a completely different time zone? - You ROLE REVERSE with them!
The term Role Reversal actually came from Psychodrama, an action oriented therapy. Role reversal is more than "walking a mile in someone else's shoes." It is really getting into the role of the other, and understanding what it is like to be them. Then, speak to yourself as that coach!
If you have been coached by Sean Buvala, you know how he responds to you and gives feedback. Take a moment to really feel what it is like to be Sean, coaching you. Then, give yourself feedback the way Sean would. Have you been coached by Doug Lipman? You know he starts off with tons of appreciations first. Then, before making suggestions, he asks you specific questions (you may remember my Tip about a Dose of my Own Medicine).
If you live in Phoenix, perhaps you have been coached or guided by Liz Warren or Marilyn Torres from SMCC. You know how they teach and give feedback. Perhaps you have a trusted friend who has given you "constructive" feedback. Maybe you have a "Story Buddy" that you use as a sounding board? In any case, take a moment to role reverse and get into being that person. Take a deep breath. Look at yourself the way they would. Get that expression on your face, the way they do. Then...give yourself some feedback!